Showing posts with label Can. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Can. Show all posts
Thursday, 2 June 2016
The Most Important Question You Can Ask Yourself Today
Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a care-free, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.
Everybody wants that -- it's easy to want that.
If I ask you, "What do you want out of life?" and you say something like, "I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like," it's so ubiquitous that it doesn't even mean anything.
Everyone wants that. So what's the point?
What's more interesting to me is what pain do you want? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives end up.
Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence -- but not everyone is willing to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, with the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.
Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship -- but not everyone is willing to go through the tough communication, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle. They settle and wonder "What if?" for years and years and until the question morphs from "What if?" into "What for?" And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, "What was it all for?" If not for their lowered standards and expectations for themselves 20 years prior, then what for?
Because happiness requires struggle. You can only avoid pain for so long before it comes roaring back to life.
At the core of all human behavior, the good feelings we all want are more or less the same. Therefore what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we're willing to sustain.
"Nothing good in life comes easy," we've been told that a hundred times before. The good things in life we accomplish are defined by where we enjoy the suffering, where we enjoy the struggle.
People want an amazing physique. But you don't end up with one unless you legitimately love the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating and calibrating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny plate-sized portions.
People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don't end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to love the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not. Some people are wired for that sort of pain, and those are the ones who succeed.
People want a boyfriend or girlfriend. But you don't end up attracting amazing peoplewithout loving the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. It's part of the game of love. You can't win if you don't play.
What determines your success is "What pain do you want to sustain?"
I wrote in an article last week that I've always loved the idea of being a surfer, yet I've never made consistent effort to surf regularly. Truth is: I don't enjoy the pain that comes with paddling until my arms go numb and having water shot up my nose repeatedly. It's not for me. The cost outweighs the benefit. And that's fine.
On the other hand, I am willing to live out of a suitcase for months on end, to stammer around in a foreign language for hours with people who speak no English to try and buy a cell phone, to get lost in new cities over and over and over again. Because that's the sort of pain and stress I enjoy sustaining. That's where my passion lies, not just in the pleasures, but in the stress and pain.
There's a lot of self development advice out there that says, "You've just got to want it enough!"
That's only partly true. Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something badly enough. They just aren't being honest with themselves about what they actually want that bad.
If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the six pack, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten.
If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe you don't actually want it at all.
So I ask you, "How are you willing to suffer?"
Because you have to choose something. You can't have a pain-free life. It can't all be roses and unicorns.
Choose how you are willing to suffer.
Because that's the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have the same answer.
The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?
Because that answer will actually get you somewhere. It's the question that can change your life. It's what makes me me and you you. It's what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together.
So what's it going to be?
-Mark Manson
Monday, 22 February 2016
Use of Simple Kitchen Ingredients Can Make You Look 10 Years Younger!
There are many products and creams in the market that claim to make you look younger and removes wrinkles but they are all costly and full of chemicals. Also you can't possibly trust that products with so many chemicals can really improve your skin. So here we tell you some ingredients straight from your kitchen. These are natural ingredients so no side effects and you will get soft shiny skin.
Friday, 16 January 2015
7 Easy Things You Can Do For Fast Weight Loss
- Water:
Water is the easiest way to loose weight. Drinking water can boost metabolism. Drinking a glass of water half an hour before a meal has its benefits in overall weight loss. So, drink at least 8-10 glasses of water per day.
2. Super foods:
Eat superfoods like Apples, Blueberries, Cherries, Grapefruit, Oranges, Pomogrante's, Bell peppers, Cabbage, Carrot's, Onion's, Spinach, Tomato's, Cinnamon, Cardamom, Yogurt. These vegetables and fruits contains low calories and rich in fiber helps in loosing weight.
3. Drink Green Tea:
Green tea contains powerful anti-oxidants and little caffeine. Green helps to speed up the metabolism rate. Drinking green tea with empty stomach in the morning and half an hour before every meal helps in loosing those extra pounds.
4. Cut Back on Added Sugar:
Sugar consumption is the main reason for the cause of obesity, heart diseases and diabetes. Avoid beverages loaded with sugar. Liquid sugar calories may be the single most aspect of modern diet. To loose weight avoid soft drinks and fruit juices with added sugar and soda's.
5. Detox Drinks:
Detox Drinks helps in flushing out toxins from the body and provides essential nutrients to it. They help's in digesting food. They are easy to be made and are safe to drink. Mix 1 tbsp honey, some chopped ginger and add half a lemon to the hot water. Drink this detox drink on empty stomach to loose weight.
6. Move Around:
Go for a 30 minute morning walk. Take some breaks and move around instead of sitting for longer periods. Do fast paced walks a week and burn more calories. A good regular walk can strengthen and shape your legs. Swinging your arms forward and backward with bent elbows that helps to tone arms, shoulders and upper back.
7. Don't Diet:
Instead of dieting start eating healthy. People who diet tend to gain more weight overtime. Eat foods rich in protein. Protein food boosts metabolism to 80-100 calories per day. Simply adding protein to your diet is the easiest and delicious way to loose your weight.
Sunday, 4 January 2015
The One And Only actor can get Salman Khan married
Salman Khan is a super star of Bollywood but he is still bachelor here are many controversies regarding his marriage but today we are showing a person who can make him agree to get married .
Sunday, 23 March 2014
How Can A Black Person Become White
How To Get Lighter Skin As A Dark Skinned Person
Black people for many reasons search for ways to get lighter skin, due to cultural reasons, personal reasons, or perhaps due to inperfections, white patches or scars on their face or hands.
This habit is very common in Hollywood, because if a casting manager says they want a lighter skinned black person, that's just what they want, because of this percentage more viewers they work out it may get, from a mostly white audience.
Tina McGee is one memorable example of a black actress who decided to become white
in Hollywood through skin whitening treatments. She has acted in the Film “Boy Meets World”.
Most of the Black actresses bleach their skin white in Hollywood to
look fair. Michael Jackson, the famous pop star has undergone skin
whitening treatments to become white from Black.
Other celebrities include Samy Sosa, Nicki Minaj, Beyonce, Tempest
Bledsoe and Rihanna etc.
Skin whitening treatments are becoming very popular today, but various treatments have existed
for more than a thousand years.
If you want to find out more about it, check out the toniqueskincare.com site by clicking on the photo of the jar of cream in the sidebar.
Is White Skin Better?
This question is a bit racist but the real fact is that black people
feel less comfortable and confident about their dark skin tone.
Several studies reveal that black people, gay people, overweight and
obese people are looked in a different way. This is the way the
society operates and it’s hard to change.
Children also perceive black people as ugly. These racist comments about
black people will always exist but there are solutions to become white if you have white spots as he did, or if you just feel a little too black in a white society.
Michael Jackson is the best case study of a black man transforming to
white. He had vitiligo and used a hydroquinone based skin
whitening cream to become white. There are better chemicals with less side effects.
How To Safely Whiten Skin
Safety comes first when you bleach your skin white. Hence take extreme
care while undergoing a skin whitening treatment.
Skin whitening treatment is done for people to remove spots in their
skin with scars, freckles and birthmarks. Avoid using hydroquinone
content based skin creams and skin whitening treatment.
If you are using a skin whitening cream, check for hydroquinone,
mercury or other poisonous chemical in the ingredients list. If you
find any of these ingredients, stop using the cream.
Always use brands that are trustworthy and following the regulations
and guidelines of the medical council in America. Use creams always
with a subscription. Tonique Skin Care is a reliable brand based in
Baltimore, MA.
The cream has no side effects and has been in the field for many
years. It contains glycolic acid, arbutin, FSH as the active
ingredients which makes it safe. Visit the company’s facebook page to
get tips on skin whitening. Drop a mail to sales@toniqueskincare for
your queries about the product.
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